Learning to Face Old Fears and Forgive

Yes, that person mentioned in this article was ME! I will tell you that at 15 years old, this was probably one of the most terrifying days of my life.

I was working alone in my family’s convenience store in a small town in WI. One man came in and was masked, and I thought “oh no”. Then the next guy had no mask on so I thought “oh good”. Until, they asked me, or rather screamed at me to “open the cash register”.

I stared in disbelief and they screamed louder. I opened it and they told me to “get down on the ground”. I knelt down and that was not the right thing to do. “Get down flat”. Well, lying face down did not feel very safe to me with two huge men above me and I being a 15 year old female. I did what they said, they took all the money and as they left they said “you stay down there and count to 50”. Well, I did have some guts as I did immediately reach for the phone and call my mom. I then went and locked the door. I was in shock.

So many of us experience traumas, deaths, accidents that we do not always take the time to process or reflect on. Maybe these events even happened when we were children and we think they did not impact us (i.e. in the case of a death of sibling when we were consciously too young to remember), I am here to tell you that they do impact you.

In my new book, In Love With Me: 7 Self Love Strategies for Successful Partnerships, Parenting and Performance, I talk a lot about healing through the body. After events like these, as humans, we need to process. If you did not as a child, it can be very helpful to do this as an adult. Simply reflecting on how this impacted you can be healthy. I also did some EMDR work around this situation because it was healthy to really go back and reprogram what I felt. I really believe I lived in more fear for many years after that event in my life. When it happened, I did not even see a counselor or talk to anyone except the police.

Also, in all the forgiveness work I have done over the years, I had to forgive these two men for truly hurting me. They took my family’s money, they had no regard for me and they put me in a situation no 15 year old should have to be in. I forgave them. That forgiveness is for me. My new book has an entire chapter dedicated to forgiveness and how crucial it is in our lives.

My wish for you is a happy and healthy life! For more information on me and my life coaching programs please visit: https://inlovewithme.com/life-coaching.  To preorder a PDF copy of my new book, pls visit: http://bit.ly/loveme7

Shannon’s passion is partnering with individuals, organizations and families to assist them in living into their highest potential.  Her life coaching focuses on the area of self-love and relationships.  Her business is www.inlovewithme.com.  She has produced two highly acclaimed guided meditation CDs:  The Healing Journey Within:  Meditations for Abundance and Love Volume I: Deserving and Volume II: Manifesting.  She also has trained extensively in the area of counseling.  Shannon also is a trained Kundalini yoga instructor.  She also developed her business www.healthychildrenofdivorce.com.   In this capacity, she specializes in the niche area of families/children of divorce, separation and conflict.  She wrote a best selling book “The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make:  Strategies for Raising Healthy Children of Divorce and Conflict”.  She is an advocate for children and parents to live happy, healthy and peace-filled lives.

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